A Gratitude Prayer
Dear God, the Universe, Creator of All that is, Our Source or whichever name you prefer to be called by these days Lord,
I am sending you this sincerely intended thank you note..
I am truly grateful for my blessed daughters, my grandchildren, other family, friends, clients and my personal mentors. I thank you for the presence of Love in my life, for the loving, kind, gentle and generous man in my life. All the wonderful, loving, supportive and creative people, the artists and musicians for I love the music, and comedians too!
Even those who challenge me, to be a better person by their disdain. Those from the past and those currently in my life who encourage me to ongoing forgiveness and understanding.. I am so grateful for my health, my ability to laugh and sing, even if not always in tune, or when I forget the words and la, la, along.
I am appreciative for the beautiful world in which I reside. In which I may travel to learn, even with it's wars and hatred, it teaches me to be more, aware, more loving and accepting. For you are my greatest teacher Father.
I thank you for the gifts you have given me, the ongoing opportunities to learn, especially new things, every day. To share my knowledge, by coaching, healing, reading and being a channel for all that is yours. I appreciate my income, this allows me to pay my rent, my bills, what I owe and be able to give gifts and to share with those less fortunate than myself. To have food to eat, clothes on my back, shoes on my feet in which to walk.
Most of all Lord, I am grateful for your LOVE (and the ability to write these words..)
Can I share some of my thoughts with you today? Did you know that even coaches need coaches? That was said to me a long time ago, I can't say it made any real sense at the time but now I would agree whole heartedly!
I think overall everyone has someone they can talk to, professionals, family or friends if not, we may keep our thoughts to ourselves whether they are positive or negative and carry the eventual rewards or consequences that, that brings. We all want to feel supported, loved as we are, accepted on our own particular journey through this life but sometimes, we keep making the same mistakes and need another person to show us the other side of the street, so we don't keep falling back into the same hole! We have to change our thoughts to change ourselves.
Often people will use self-help books, seminars and video classes which keep us learning either in our own particular field or a new one. I really think that having a professional coach, in some area of our life, makes a huge difference for us.
Coaches generally have a detached point of view and are able to teach us new tools to move beyond where we are, if that is what we sincerely want? Sometimes a coach/therapist/helper is not a good fit for us and then we have to have the courage to move on to someone else. Also it's interesting to note that what you see in someone else, is already a part of yourself or you wouldn't be able to see it!
As coaches, therapists, healers and helpers we can delude ourselves into believing we are fine just as we are...but are we really? Do we need a good push/shove to get us back to our own goals and personal dreams because we are being lazy? Can we recognize when we are burning out and need "us time"? Are we striving to grow in ourselves to be better at helping our clients? Can we take a moment in our day to rest a while in the quiet? Only we really know...
That's why I think sometimes we all need a true and honest person, whomever that might be, in our lives to guide us, in addition to whatever spiritual practice we may use.
If you are wondering, yes I have a coach who passes an objective eye, to help me stay on track of my goals.
In my humble opinion, we all need that.
For my own personal coaches' over the years, you know who you are and I am eternally grateful for your particular set of tools that have helped me move forward!
As an adult have you ever felt judged
unfairly for the actions you have chosen to take? Have you had family or
friends questioning your judgement, or even your ability to make the right
decisions for yourself? This is particularly hard, when you feel that your
inner voice, prayer, meditation or heart is clearly pushing you in the right
direction. Especially when you have made conscious decisions, based on those
heartfelt feelings or an inner knowing. The choice feels right to you, even if
you changed your mind about something that you previously felt was right, or
was best for you at the time?
We all have or had parents, teachers, family and friends who like to share
their knowledge and love, in the hopes of helping us with their experiences.
They are also sharing with us the knowledge gained from their parents and
generations before us, good or bad. We then consider whether the information is
right or wrong for us at the time, or if a grain of that knowledge, could be
used to help us to make better choices.
I am not talking about choices that are made, by those who feel under duress,
stress or mental illness. In that case, a medical professional or designated
family member or friend could help. Making decisions with a clear mind it is an
entirely different situation. It is virtually impossible to make positive
choices, if you are upset, as your rational mind is not functioning properly.
Of course, there are necessarily, situations that need to be brought to the
light of day, that humanity collectively need to change, particularly, when it
affects basic human rights. Here, I am discussing how our personal
relationships can negatively be affected when there is no sense of respect or
boundaries between individuals.
You, yourself have most certainly have had an opinion about another person, or
their actions in your life and the lives of others. You may have even gone so
far as to decide if they were right or wrong, as human beings we tend to do
that. There is of course, a world of difference between stating a fact as it is
and feeling the need to comment on, or even try to change something in someone
else’s personal life, even if it appears to be right in our minds.
Often, we want the outcome of a situation to be one of our choosing because it
makes us feel more comfortable in ourselves. Which actually has nothing to do
with the other person or people concerned.
I believe we are all “Souls,” here to learn, by human experience and the
choices that we make, as individuals. We create situations and meet new people
throughout our lives, who can (hopefully), help us and we them, by sharing our
light to become wiser people. As a firm believer in reincarnation,( the process
of living many lives, not just one) for me, the whole point of it all, is to
grow and become better able, to love our fellow men and women without
conditions, that is to just love them regardless of their choices and to trust
that there is a reason behind everything which may or may not have anything to
do with us personally.
Who are we to judge what is right or wrong for another person? Who are we to
decide what another person’s lessons or journey are all about? The assumption
here, is that we eventually return to “God”, “The Universe”, “Source”, “All
that is,” whatever you decide is the name of that higher power for you, and
relinquish our free will to that energy, to be used as it Wills. In truth, I
believe in part, that we do that, by being of service to humanity in positive
ways, even with something as a simple smile, that could brighten someone else’s
Of course, at this time in our human evolution, we need laws and court systems
to aid in bringing others, to the understanding of their wrong doing or actions
to humanity. To eventually become more aware and develop a conscience.
Just as a point of reference, from the King James Bible, Matthew 7:2 simply put
as simple translation, states: Do not judge, as you will be judged for whatever
it is that you do.
Essentially that wisdom shows up in many religious books and spoken by many
wise teachers down through the ages. To me, that means we would all do better
to come to a place of understanding and love, and acceptance of what is, on a
one to one basis, instead of having an opinion about each other (yes, I am
guilty of that too and constantly working on it!) We would all do better to
‘check’ ourselves - none of us are perfect. No one person is perfect.
Unconditional love of all humanity and the ability to forgive, is a hard
attainment and certainly takes many lives to achieve,
Jesus said Those of you without Sin (wrong doing), let him/her cast the first
stone. Meaning, you don’t have the right to judge another person, unless you
are perfect yourself and who is? Judgement is a place without understanding and
love, often with a hidden agenda and a need to control a situation.
If people are judging you constantly, are you judging others? In my experience
what goes around comes around.
Better to allow your love, wisdom and understanding to be present instead,
rather than your judgement. No one knows with certainty our individual’s soul’s
journey, not even our ourselves.
Everything we do is either a lesson or a growth opportunity for us and the
people around us. We are all teachers and students.
Just to be sure, can you put yourself in the other persons ‘shoe’s’ and walk
around for a few minutes. Are you able to feel with some measure of compassion
and understanding of the other person’s feelings? Consider how would you feel,
if someone you cared about, judged your choices and questioned you without
trying to understand?
At the end of each day, if can we check in with ourselves, to see if we could
have handled a situation differently or better, perhaps with more compassion or
love. Was it really necessary to intervene? Will our actions or comments create
a positive outcome or create more tension or separation in the
relationship/friendship you have with that other person? Could you have stepped
back for a moment and walked more softly on another’s heart or just breathed
for few moments, to try and understand someone else’s feelings? Consider, would
being silent have been a better option?
Ultimately, we can only live our best life by being examples of love, kindness,
and forgiveness. Knowing when to have the wisdom and respect to be silent and
let other people take care of their business as we mind ours.
If you truly believe that your intervention or shared thoughts helped a
situation, and you know in your heart it was the right thing to do, then be at
peace with yourself because everything happens for a reason.
These are my lessons, which have enhanced my life and I offer them with love
and in service rather than as a prescription.
Energy follows thought therefore, what you think about, you will ultimately create. So, it follows then, that if you don't "mind' it doesn't 'matter' (or manifest) ...Every thought reaches its destination.
This is the time in humanities evolution of becoming more aware of the energies we create, which we put out there every day.
Consider your point of view, do you tend to be more positive and optimistic or do you complain a lot about people and things? Are you always limiting yourself with your thoughts and what you think you are capable of achieving?
If we are choosing to remain in dense energy levels, we then create depression, carrying those heavy feelings, experiencing that hollow feeling in our stomachs. We create more negativity around us because we choose to be angry, resentful and fearful. We stop believing in ourselves, we withdraw from the world, believing that those around us don’t love us anymore. That is when we as individuals, are not reaching out to others for the help we may need, but God/The Universe/All that is/ Source/The Higher Power, call it what you will, will always deliver what you ask for – it helps if you are paying attention! To help us to find that love, forgiveness and joy within ourselves, to once again begin caring and loving ourselves and others. You are the only one who can make the changes in your life with your choices.
As our energy becomes 'lighter' through acts of love, kindness and regular meditation, our frequency changes. Mother Earth is going through her time of cleansing and we, as inhabitants of the planet are doing the same, either consciously or unconsciously... When we are increasing the positive in our lives, our energy becomes more refined and fuller of light.
As we aspire to give more love, kindness, compassion and caring each day to those around us, we are releasing more and more negativity, and also encouraging our souls to shine Love out into the world. Doesn’t it always feel good to be giving of ourselves even if it’s only a smile? That creates more love, not only for the planet and those of us on it but also the Universe.
At the end of the day consider, could I have done that differently, to have had a better outcome, am I helping or hindering with my actions? What could have been changed to resolve that issue, do I need to learn to respond, instead of just reacting? Is it better to be right or just let it go, because if you don't mind, it really doesn’t matter and it won't manifest in your life as something you don't want!
Coaching the Mouse - A lighter look at Life Coaching
Some years ago, I wrote the piece I am about to share with you, I hope it makes you smile if not laugh out loud? It demonstrates the simple basics of The Six Step Coaching Model.
This morning my cat brought into the house, a live mouse, (a delightful gift...if you are also a cat). Not being one who enjoys sharing my space with mice or rodents of any kind, I spent the best part of the morning trying to liberate it. The Mouse quite suddenly, became my client and I the Life Coach.
What was the desired outcome or goal for this situation?
We established that the ultimate goal of the mouse - The Client, was to escape from the Cat (The obstacle) and live happily on somewhere out there in the world. My role as the Life Coach was to help facilitate that process, in as short a time as possible! This raised several challenges for both the client and the Life Coach but we were certainly on the same page! Especially as the Life Coach and her visiting friend were at this point, actually perched on kitchen chairs to avoid the mouse.
Where was the Client?
The client, was hiding under the dryer; his adversary the Cat was close by watching. The goal was to get past the cat or have the Life Coach at least distract him from his prey...
Because the mouse values his life and freedom in the world and wants to live.
When did it want to be free and what were the Life Coach's expectations of the outcome?
Just as surely as the Client wanted to be free of the cat’s influence, the Life Coach wanted to be rid of the Client's situation immediately! Although it may appear to be the Coach's agenda, it transpired that both the client and the coach had the same desired outcome in mind. Therefore, both client and coach had to draw on their resources of positive states of mind, which would then facilitate confidence in the outcome and the attainment of the goal!
Who would benefit?
Both the Client and the Life Coach would benefit from the attainment of the goal. The aim was clear, the Client wanted to survive. The Life Coach quickly established the Client's strengths and weaknesses, along with the possible opportunities and threats (to overcome) which could arise on route to the goal.
How was the goal attained?
Various methods were tried. The goal was set and over a period of time, it was recognized that some of the methodology was not appropriate for this Client. FEAR being the major issue from both parties. In the meantime, the cat maintained his focus!
Finally, the Client disappeared up the vacuum cleaner, where he sat and was determined to remain. (No, it was not switched on at the time)
After careful consideration, the Life Coach decided to elevate the Client to the next level, by lifting up the vacuum cleaner while the Client was still inside of it, to re-establish him to his former environment in the garden. This action still proved to be rather challenging for the Client, as he needed to be encouraged to leave his comfort zone within the cleaner, to be able to move forward to his next goal. In this case, the goal was to find his way home, avoiding the Cat on route and then be able to find food for himself. By this time, he was exhausted, starving and needed considerable encouragement...
The Life Coach then decided to motivate the Client to free himself from inside of the vacuum cleaner, by gentle tapping with a stick until the Client jumped out of the cleaner and ran home.
Ultimate goal realized!
Summary: There are no situations in Life that can't be coached!
Please note however that this Life Coach, does not habitually use sticks to encourage clients out of their comfort zones!
By Amanda Vinson
Master Life Coach and Spiritual Holistic Journey Master Coach